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Approaching Women

***THIS WEEK'S QUESTION***

SUBJECT: A BIG BREAKTHROUGH

Dear Friend,

I have been reading your blogs and trying your
ideas for a while now with limited success.
However the other week I decided to try your cocky
and funny attitude in a nightclub setting and get
over my fear of approaching beautiful women.

Here is what happened... I spoke to 35 girls in a
four hour period. Got 2 phone numbers and lots of
physical contact like hand holding, hugs etc. My
approach was basically like this... A girl bumped
into me and say "Sorry" I replied. "C'mon I know
what you are doing. You just want to seduce me and
take me home. . . But listen, I am not THAT easy.
I hate it when girls just want me for my sexy body
and incredible looks (I am an average looking
bloke) I mean I have feelings . . . and a brain.
What happened to just talking a bit and being
friends... By then the girl is really cracking up
and playing along. Like she said, "Oh, it must be
a real problem being as good looking as you how do
you cope?" I said things like "So tell me, What
does it feel like to be talking to such a good
looking sexy and intelligent guy like me?" OR
Have you ever talked to such a good looking sexy,
intelligent... and modest guy like me before?"
"You are not going to start stalking me now, are
you?"

Another approach I used with waitresses was...
"Excuse me, but how do you do that?" (She ALWAYS
says, "Do what?") Walk so straight. You just
glide through the room with this great energy.
Are you a dancer or something?... Then I went into
my cocky and funny... Hey, you are not intimidated
to have such a good looking and sexy guy like me
talking to you, are you? (I got her number)

I would ask them where they were from, and when
they told me I would ask . . . "So what are you
doing here, did you get lost?" I would shake
their hands when I introduced myself and then
say... "Wow, you have an interesting handshake.
You know you can tell a lot about how a person
first meets someone by the way they shake
hands..." (They almost always say, "So what can
you tell about me?")

Anyway, since that time I have lost my fear of
meeting women in any situation. I comment on
their clothes, jewelry, hairstyle, an item they
carry etc. Then get into the good looking sexy
routine. Also when I am in shops, checkout lines
etc. And I get asked how are you? I now say,
"You mean apart from being incredibly attractive
and irresistibly sexy?... I am really great!!"
This always gets a reaction. If it is a bit
reserved I follow up with "You are not intimidated
by having such a good looking guy come into your
store, are you?"

Or if they ask "Would you like a bag" (Like in a
grocery store) I say "You mean to put over my
head because I am so good looking and to stop all
the girls from attacking me when I walk out? Good
idea." Then after her response I say, "You are
not going to start following me when I leave here
are you? You are not a stalker are you?" If she
is a bit freaked out. I say "You look a bit
intimidated by what I said. Haven't you ever had
such a good looking guy through your checkout
before?"

So now I am meeting, women and getting phone
numbers EVERYWHERE I go. But more than that I
make people feel great after I leave. And have
them saying things like "You made my day" "I was
feeling down until you came" Etc. etc. etc. This
is soooo much fun.

P.S. Question: I know some of the girls really
like me. But I seem to miss the chance to close.
(Kiss and/or number and e-mail.) At least 10
times now while I am talking to the girl, a friend
comes and drags her away. What's the way to
overcome this. I REALLY want to kiss, close and
get the number. I know I keep missing the moment.
How do I know when the moment is there? (My
feeling is I am just go wussy and get scared when
I get to that stage and I just have to have a go
and just DO IT!!!)

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great examples... killer stories.

In response to this great letter, I'm going to
focus this, integrating several of the different
"pieces of the puzzle" together.

One of the most important things to remember as
you hear the different ideas that I present is
that THEY'RE ALL PART OF A BIGGER PICTURE.

All of the ideas work together.

They strengthen and magnify each other.

And they are explained the way they are for
specific reasons.

Let me give you a couple of examples.

Why do I teach the concept of being "Cocky and
Funny?"

Because it's the absolute best way I've been
able to find for a regular guy to communicate in a
way that makes an attractive woman feel a gut
level ATTRACTION.

Attraction is complex to explain. It would
appear to be a simple concept.

But it's not.

If you want to be able to create it, you have
to understand things that most guys don't get.

Cocky & Funny communicates:

1) That you're an "alpha" type male. Even though
you're making jokes and being funny, you're
talking in a way that only confident men talk.
This is attractive.

2) Humor requires intelligence and creativity. And
when you use humor with a little bit of cockiness,
it comes across as "superiority". Also attractive.

3) It says "I get it" in a very subtle way.
Attractive women are approached all the time by
men... in one way or another. When you're acting
cocky and funny, it's a very DETACHED kind of
attitude. An attractive woman who is used to being
approached all the time and worshipped finds the
attitude VERY interesting and refreshing.

4) It's UNBELIEVABLY easy and low-risk. It beats
the hell out of fighting to show off that you're a
dominant male.

And on and on...

Bottom line: IT WORKS. Use it.

Next, let's talk about getting email addresses
and phone numbers.

Why do I recommend getting email instead of
numbers?

Because it's a lot easier, women aren't so
resistant to it, women respond to it better... and
you're about twice as likely to hear back when you
email as when you call.

Again, there are all kinds of reasons for it.

How about the idea of getting her email address
within a few minutes of meeting her instead of
going for "kiss closes" and trying to take women
home the night you meet them?

Why do I suggest that?

Wouldn't it make more sense to get her more
interested in you on the spot? And strike up an
interesting conversation to prove what a great guy
you are?

Well, sure.

If you're the mac daddy of all time, then it's
a great idea.

But if you're a regular guy, it's probably not
a good idea at all.

See, if I go out on a Friday night with some
friends, and we go to a couple of bars... there
are a few interesting dynamics that are probably
going on.

1) Women that are out are usually with friends.
Friends don't like to have their friend taken away
from them so you can mack on her.

2) Unless you are a "pro", the chances that you're
going to make a better impression by talking
longer in a bar or other busy public setting are
slim. There are a lot of distractions... and a lot
of other guys around who want your gal's attention
(competition wastes time).

3) If there are a lot of other guys around, she
will have better looking, smoother talking men to
compare you to. In my experience there is ALWAYS a more
attractive guy in a busy bar. It's only human
nature to have this work against you.

4) If you talk to one woman all night, you may or
may not wind up dating her later. In my
experience, due to the reasons above, your chances
get worse the longer you talk. MUCH BETTER to get
an email address (AND number) from a woman in a
few minutes, then move on and get another... and
another. I know a lot of guys that go out and get
3-5 emails and numbers a night (some get a lot
more). Then you have a bunch of prospects to
follow up with during the week.

5) The chances are that the women you're talking
to are NOT the kind of women you're going to want
to see again. YOU READ THAT RIGHT. Just like most
guys are not what an attractive woman is looking
for, most women aren't what you're looking for
either. She's probably either a bad match to your
personality, has different values than you, is
annoying in some way or whatever. I'd say that
maybe one in three women would even warrant a
second date on average. Remember this before you
invest too much time talking when you could be
getting more emails and numbers!

The REAL point I'm trying to make is that the
"Three Minute Email/Phone Number" technique isn't
just a cute trick or a gimmick.

There's a reason why I use it personally and
why I teach it and mention it so often.

It took me a looooong time to figure out all of
the reasons that I've listed. And there are many
more. But the point is that the technique and
mind set behind it work and will get you more
success than others.

Sooooo...

To answer your question of what you should do
because all of these women have friends that pull
them away before you can "kiss, close and get the
number"...

GET HER EMAIL ADDRESS BEFORE HER FRIEND EVEN
KNOWS WHAT'S GOING ON!

Then go get another one. And another.

Then, meet each of them for a 20 minute cup of
tea during the week and decide if you like one or
more of them enough to spend some time later
together. What a much better mindset.

I have a friend who has slept with over 1,000
women... and when he goes out to meet women, he's
not looking for a woman to take home that night.
He's looking to get numbers.

Now, we're talking about a guy who likes to
date a LOT of women here! (I realize you may not
want 1,000 women, but the idea still rings
true)...

His words (paraphrased by me): "You have to run
it like a business. Go out on the weekend and get
20 numbers, then call them all on Monday and set
up your dates for the week..."

This idea works just as well if you're looking
to find one special girl as it does if you're
looking to find one special girl every night.

So...

1) Remember that all of the pieces work together.

2) Think about doing what makes the MOST SENSE
rather than trying to be get
"kiss closes" from every woman you meet.

If you think what you're doing is powerful,
just wait until you have a command of the
PSYCHOLOGY that is controlling the attraction
"mechanism" inside of women.

If you already have a little bit of success
with women, this will make you BETTER.

"How should I act on the first date?"

I get a lot of specific questions that are
basically variations of this... things like:

"What should we talk about?" and "How do you
keep the conversation interesting?"

So instead of answering one specific question,
I'm going to lump them all together... and I'm
going to just address them all in this Q&A Dating
Tip.

Here goes...

THE FIRST DATE ISN'T AN INTERVIEW

The first thing to remember when you're meeting
up with a girl for "a date" is that it's NOT an
INTERVIEW.

You're not applying for a job (and neither is
she), so don't act like it.

It's so funny to me when I sit down in a
restaurant and I hear a couple that's obviously
out on their first date... and the guy has no idea
what to do.

It sounds like this:

"So, did you grow up around here?"

"Where did you go to school?"

"Do you have brothers and sisters?"

"What kinds of things do you like to do for fun?"

Painful.

Why is it that people tend to act like they're
on job interviews when they go out on dates?

It's just such the NOT-right thing to do.

I mean, no wonder women sit around with each
other and complain about how hard it is to find an
interesting guy in this world.

Here's a good rule of thumb:

ONLY ASK QUESTIONS OR TALK ABOUT COMMON,
BORING, PREDICTABLE TOPICS LIKE SCHOOL, WORK AND
FAMILY IF YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY RUN OUT OF ALL OTHER
OPTIONS... AND YOU REALLY ENJOY THAT CURIOUS DRY
FEELING RIGHT WHERE YOUR LEGS MEET.

And why is this?

Good question. And I'm glad you asked.

First, let's talk about WHY most guys allow the
conversation to turn to these ultra-boring
topics...

Most guys approach a first date from the
perspective of "I don't want to screw this up".

In other words, they try to play it safe and
not do anything or say anything that the girl
might not like.

They try to present themselves as "nice guys"
who love mom, have a good job, and are stable.

Somehow, guys have gotten the idea that if they
act nice, buy dinner, and talk about the same old
things that everyone else uses to bore women to
tears that they might get lucky and score (or at
least get a kiss and a second opportunity to buy
dinner).

I don't know where this concept came from, but
it's just not a very effective approach.

WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO THE SAME OLD SAME
OLD, BORING, PREDICTABLE CONVERSATION.

Attraction happens when there is energy, spice,
humor, mystery... COCKY AND FUNNY... and special
sauce.

So, if you want to create ATTRACTION instead of
BOREDOM, you're going to have to learn a new way.

You're going to have to learn to talk about
something else.

Before I give you specifics about what to
talk about with women, I want to mention one
VERY important thing: If you don't know how to
make a woman laugh, and you don't know how to
create TENSION in a skillful way, then I want
you to make sure and read THIS:

Cocky Comedy

Onward...

The trick to not talking about the "usual"
things is to know how to make conversation
INTERESTING.

Let me ask you... what are the most INTERESTING
topics to humans in general?

Hint: Think best-selling books and TV shows...

Right - drama, violence, scandal, and comedy
that is painful to one of the parties involved.

Here are a few good ideas for conversation that
come to mind:

1. Any Hollywood scandal involving anyone famous
and anyone of the opposite sex that's famous.

2. Any relationship drama going on between any pop
star and their new or ex boy/girl friend.

3. Anything that has to do with hip hop artists
spending too much money on rims that spin or
diamonds in their teeth.

These topics will light up a conversation like
nobody's business. And they create all kinds of
opportunities to be cocky and funny while talking
about the misfortunes and neurotic behavior of
others.

The trick is that you must remember you're NOT
there to impress her, and you're NOT on a job
interview.

The more you act nervous, stilted, and
uncomfortable... like you're trying to impress her
and get her approval... and like you don't want to
say anything that might make her disapprove of
you, the less likely you are to trigger that all-
important ATTRACTION inside of her.

And here's a real twist on this theme:

If SHE starts asking the "normal" questions
about school, job, family, etc. this is a perfect
opportunity to bust on her and say "What, is this
a job interview?"

Or "Can't you think of something interesting to
talk about? Please, spare me the pain of the usual
school-job-family conversation. Let's save that
until we're picking names for our kids."

If you MUST talk about something "normal" or
"regular", try sprinkling in a few of these ideas:

1) History. Women love to hear stories about the
history of places. If you're in an interesting
part of town, tell her the story of how the area
came to be named, or why the city was built where
it is. And if the story involves a tale of love
and/or scandal, all the better.

2) Anything superficial, classy, and basically
meaningless. Try learning a little about fashion,
this way you can make fun of it while acting like
you know what you're talking about. "Didn't
Madonna really screw up the fashion world with
this whole over-the-top fake cowboy look thing?"

3) Comedy Psychological Analysis. Have fun by
giving your wild perspective on others. "You know,
I've been trying to figure out why so many people
these days are going postal and shooting everyone.
I think it might be all the lame music that's on
the radio these days..." This one can be a lot of
fun... be creative.

Do you see where I'm going with this?

If you want to keep her interest, then you have
to be INTERESTING.

The old-fashioned act-like-you're-on-a-job
interview rap just doesn't cut it.

Now, for some guys, the ideas that I've just
talked about will make sense, but they won't come
naturally.

That's OK. You may have to work on this for
awhile, especially if you've spent the last 25 or
so years doing the wrong thing.

Old Proverb: "No matter how far down the wrong
road you've gone, TURN BACK."

So remember, attraction isn't a choice. And
attraction doesn't make logical sense. If you want
to create that magical "chemistry", then you're
going to have to LEARN and PRACTICE it.

Repeat after me.

Out loud.

"I am not going on an interview... I am not
going on an interview... I am not going on an
interview..."

Good. Keep that in mind.

How To Use Flirting To Make Her Want You

If you're interested in learning how to
use Body Language to trigger MASSIVE attraction
and "sexual chemistry" with women, then you
should take a minute and read THIS:

Body Language

I want to talk about the concept of "flirting",
and why it's SO important that you understand
exactly what it is and how to do it with women.

To begin with, women know what flirting is and
they respond VERY differently to flirting
communication than they do to typical social
communication.

If you understand flirting and sexual tension,
you can begin conversations with women and have
them INSTANTLY feeling ATTRACTION for you.

If you DON'T understand how flirting and sexual
tension work, then you're either going to have to
become famous or make a LOT of money to be
successful with women.

I'm going to suggest that you learn how to
flirt well, then do it RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING in
your interactions with women to SET THE RIGHT
TONE.

Think of flirting like playing.

Remember when you were a kid and you used to
"play fight" with your friends?

What's the difference between "play" wrestling
and "real" wrestling?

And how do you know the difference when it's
happening... when your friend runs up and pushes
you down, then jumps on you and tries to pin you?

The answer is YOU JUST KNOW. It's obvious to
humans (and other animals, by the way) when
someone is "playing" and when they're serious.

Flirting is similar.

If you start talking to a woman and say, "Hi,
you're very pretty. You probably have a boyfriend,
right?" in a normal tone of voice, you're NOT
flirting.

On the other hand, if you say, "Hi, I realize
that you're probably shy because you get no
attention from men... so I thought I'd come over
here and pay attention to you..." it's OBVIOUS
that you're not being serious. This is flirting.

By the way, flirting IS NOT simply telling
jokes, or trying to be "cute".

One of the concepts that I teach is called
"Cocky & Funny."

Cocky & Funny is simply a powerful,
concentrated way of flirting and creating sexual
tension with a specific kind of humor.

It's so funny to me how some guys write in
because they "can't see themselves being Cocky &
Funny around women" because they don't want to
come across as jerks.

This really cracks me up... because it's
obvious to me that these guys JUST DON'T GET IT.

So let me explain this whole thing a different
way...

If you know how to communicate the right way,
women will respond to you RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING
with a HIGH LEVEL of sexual interest and
ATTRACTION.

When you know how to incorporate flirting in a
Cocky & Funny way, which is really a form of
"adult verbal play", you tune in to a certain
frequency in a woman's mind and cause her to go
into a very special kind of emotional state.

One of the keys to effective flirting is to
"get it". In other words, you have to actually get
out there and practice so you get a "feel" for how
it works.

I think a lot of guys give up when they try a
cute line or technique and a woman responds by
saying "You're a loser." Instead of just realizing
that they need more practice or that the woman
might have just been in a bad mood or even one of
those horrible "I don't have a sense of humor"
cases, they take it personally and decide to just
have it mean that they're a failure.

But take my word for it... once you learn how
to flirt effectively and communicate in the
language of "adult play" you WILL SIMPLY NOT
BELIEVE how women will respond to you.

If you want to see some video clips of me
TEACHING Cocky & Funny then go here and check out
the examples:

Cocky Comedy

Here's an example of some of one of my favorite
topics to "riff on" when flirting... the topic of
getting married and us being in a relationship...
and I'll give it to you in the form of a sample
dialogue. Keep in mind, I might have a
conversation like this one with a woman that I
just met five minutes earlier...

Her: "I have a good job, and I make good money"

Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to get
married? We could leave for Vegas right now and be
married in about 4 or 5 hours. I need a woman with
money."

Her: [Laughter] "OK, that sounds like a plan"

Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you can
support the both of us on your income? I really
want to be a stay at home husband... you know,
keep an eye on the TV and such."

Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you."

Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It's
over between us. I was going to marry you, then
divorce you a week later and take half your
money."

Her: [Laughter] "You can't break up with me! I'm
not even your girlfriend."

Me: "That's all the more reason."

...do you get what's going on here?

I'm taking a normal conversation topic (her job
and income) and redirecting the conversation in a
flirtatious, Cocky & Funny way to create a fun
mood and sexual tension (by suggesting marriage,
divorce, and breaking up over her not supporting
me, etc.).

If the above example doesn't make any sense to
you, then take that as a sign that you need to get
out and practice more. Try it on a waitress or
two.

When you ask for something and she says, "I'm
sorry, we don't have that", just say, "OK, this
relationship isn't working out... I'm going to
have to break up with you."

In fact, you can say this in just about ANY
situation with ANY woman where she's saying
something that you don't like, and it's funny.

When you communicate like this, you're
FLIRTING, you're TEASING, and you're initiating a
DIFFERENT KIND OF COMMUNICATION than what most men
initiate.

And as soon as the woman you're talking to
"engages" you in this kind of dialogue, THE GAME
IS ON.

There are a LOT of ways you can flirt, and a
lot of ways you can be Cocky & Funny that DON'T
REQUIRE WORDS.

If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow,
look back at her and do the same... only
exaggerate it.

If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look down
at it, then look up at her in a surprised way,
then raise your eyebrows as if you just had a
major "ah ha!" realization... then start smiling
and nodding your head as if you just realized that
she wants you. This is a powerful combination
because it's funny, and it exaggerates the meaning
in her touching you.

There are a MILLION ways to flirt like this,
but the point that I'm trying to make is that you
NEED TO START DOING IT RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING OF
YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN.

It will set off all of your conversations with
women on the right foot, and start a dialogue that
creates sexual tension and ATTRACTION.

If you DON'T learn how to communicate with
women like this you'll have BORING, "NORMAL"
conversations that NEVER lead to sexual tension
and ATTRACTION.

Remember, women can tell INSTANTLY whether
you're flirting with them or not. If you are, and
you're doing it in a subtle, charming way, you'll
get amazing responses.

One of the keys to flirting and creating
ATTRACTION effectively, is projecting confidence
and indifference both in your voice tone and body
language as you do it...

And in order to project these things, you need
to have the right understanding and BELIEFS about
how male/female ATTRACTION works... and then be
able to project them throughout your conversation
with women.

If you don't naturally "get" the concept of
flirting with women, and you'd like to learn how
to use it to spark ATTRACTION, build Sexual
Tension and eventually take things to a PHYSICAL
LEVEL, then I highly recommend that you get your
hands on a copy of my "Sexual Communication"
program.

Over the time I spent learning directly from
guys who were REALLY good with women, I noticed
something that they were all doing... that most
men literally CAN'T SEE.

I discovered what I think of as a "secret
language" that men and women use to communicate on
a "sexual level"...

Well, after discovering that this was going on
right in front of me all my life... and then
learning how to use it to attract women... I
realized that I HAD to teach this to other guys.

And that's what this program is all about.

Teaching YOU to speak THIS language.

After going through this program, I guarantee
that you'll look at all your interactions with
women very differently... and you'll create a LOT
more ATTRACTION with women... using only your
voice tone, inflection, and body language.

Oh, and you'll know how to FLIRT, too.

Why INTELLIGENT Men Fail With Women

·          I've been teaching men how to become more

successful with women and dating for several years

now... and one "problem scenario" just keeps

coming up OVER AND OVER... and OVER and OVER and

OVER again...

   ...and it really amazes me.

   I'm going to refer to it as "The Genius Failure

Paradox".

   "The Genius Failure Paradox" is the tendency

for UNUSUALLY intelligent men to have very LOW

levels of success with women and dating.

   After contemplating this particular paradox,

discussing it, and working on it for an awesome

amount of time, I'd like to share my thoughts

about it with you.

   I assume that if you've read this far, then you

probably see yourself as smarter than the average

guy.

   You know that you're a little different than

other guys.

   You probably realized at a young age that you

saw things differently and thought differently

than others in school...

   And you've probably realized that your smart

mind gives you an advantage over others in many

areas of life...

   Your smart mind gives you a particular type of

advantage that can be very, very powerful in life:

YOU'RE USUALLY RIGHT.

   Smart people get used to being "right" because

they usually ARE right.

   And when you're RIGHT more often than others,

you can get ahead in many situations.

   But unfortunately, this smart mind of yours can

actually be WORSE than USELESS when it comes to a

key area of life:

   WOMEN AND DATING.

   By the way, I did say WORSE than useless.

   It can actually be like having a hammer when

you need to tighten a bolt. If you use the tool

you have for the job, you'll most likely make the

situation WORSE.

   Of course, it's hard for a smart guy to even

IMAGINE a situation where his smart mind could

HURT his chances for success...

   But trust me, this is one of those situations.

   So relax, open your smart mind, and let me

share with you the ten reasons why smart guys fail

with women... and what to do about it.

REASON #1: THEY'RE WRONG, BUT THEY CAN'T OR WON'T

SEE IT OR ADMIT IT.

   I mentioned that smart guys are used to being

RIGHT in most situations.

   And what do most smart guys do when they come

across a situation where they're WRONG?

   They find a new situation... one that fits

their strength. They know they'll be right next

time, so they just walk away... knowing that it

won't be long before they're right again.

   (OR they let the "problem situation" destroy

them... more on that later.)

   Well, the BITCH about being wrong when it comes

to women and dating is THERE'S NOWHERE TO RUN AND

HIDE.

   There's no quick "I'm right" around the next

corner to make you feel better.

   It only takes "failing" with a few women in a

row for a smart guy to see the pattern... and

realize that something isn't working.

   Solution? Think harder.

   A smart guy just assumes that his logic must be

good... so he just keeps thinking harder.

   But when no success comes, it really starts to

become mentally difficult.

   Accepting that you're wrong is a VERY hard

thing for a "smart guy" to do.

   Accepting that you're not only wrong, but you

have NO CLUE WHERE TO EVEN START is even more

difficult.

   Ultimately, many smart guys come up with the

following logical conclusion:

I AM A SMART GUY, THEREFORE IF I CAN'T FIGURE OUT

HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN AND DATING, THEN

THE PROBLEM MUST NOT BE SOLVABLE OR WORTH SOLVING.

   Try that on for a self-defeating idea.

REASON #2: THEY'RE BLIND AND ARROGANT.

   In short, many smart guys refuse to accept that

a good, solid, workable answer could come from

someone "dumber" than them, so they discount any

idea that comes from an "obviously less

intelligent person" before trying it.

   Let me ask you a question:

   If you were going to be walking across Africa

on foot, would you rather have your guide be the

guy on this planet with the highest I.Q., or a

caveman who lived a million years ago that had an

I.Q. of about 50... but who grew up being chased

by lions and all kinds of animals that wanted to

eat him all his life?

   It's an interesting question.

   Now, hopefully you'd like to have the guide who

isn't the smartest guy around... but who has

escaped from many, many dangerous situations with

deadly animals...

   But now let me ask you:

   If you'd like to learn how to be more

successful with women and dating, would you take

advice from a guy who isn't very intelligent, but

who knows how to attract women?

   There's something about being smart that makes

some guys unwilling to accept input, ideas, or

instruction from anyone who isn't either as smart

or smarter than them.

   Well, any SMART GUY can see the folly in this

particular approach... once it's examined closely.

   If you've been making this mistake, then you

need to STOP IT. Stop being an arrogant bastard,

and open your eyes.

   Look around.

   Learn from some "dumb" guys... and let them

teach you how to get what you REALLY want.

REASON #3: POOR SOCIAL SKILLS.

   It BLOWS MY MIND how many smart guys I meet

that just don't GET IT when it comes to basic

social skills.

   It's as if they have logically reasoned that

social skills are for lower beings who need to

play games... and not worth the time it would take

to learn them.

   In fact, I believe that there are a lot of

smart guys running around this planet who don't

even have "social skills" and "be a cool guy that

people like" in their MENTAL MODEL of what it

could possibly take to be successful with women

and dating.

   Social skills are just that... SKILLS.

   They're not social INFORMATION.

   They're not social THEORIES.

   They're social SKILLS.

   And you don't get them by THINKING about them.

You get them by GETTING them.

   Excellent social skills are the foundation for

good communication with other humans... and if you

don't have good social skills, you dramatically

lower your chances for success with women.

REASON #4: THEY PSYCH THEMSELVES OUT.

   Smart guys do something that fascinates the

hell out of me...

   They come up with all the reasons why

everything WON'T WORK when it comes to women and

dating.

   They actually figure out why what it is that

they would like to do will probably fail...

   They use their amazing creative imaginations to

imagine all kinds of horrible pictures and

scenes... and then they use those imaginary

outcomes to create negative emotions... which

ultimately stop them from having success with

women and dating.

   THEY DON'T EVEN TRY.

   Now, if you've thought something through and

come up with a good reason why it would fail, it

makes sense to not do it, right?

   I mean, why would you want to do things that

are going to fail?

   It is sound logic, but HORRIBLE thinking when

it comes to the REAL WORLD... and success with

women.

   Because smart guys don't UNDERSTAND women, and

they don't UNDERSTAND what it takes to be

successful with women, they are working with bad

figures. They're wrong before they even start

figuring!

   Using your mind to come up with all the reasons

why things won't work in this area of your life

leads to ULTIMATE FAILURE.

   You must learn to overcome this habit if you

have it.

REASON #5: THEY SEEK ONLY "INFORMATIONAL

SOLUTIONS"

   What does a smart guy do when he runs into a

problem... or he needs to figure something out?

   He looks for INFORMATION to help him solve the

problem.

   MORE INFORMATION is always the answer.

   Information is the friend of a smart guy.

   Got a strange virus on your computer? Just hop

on the Internet and search for how to eliminate

it.

   Don't know how to change the alternator on your

car? No prob. Just buy the manual and turn to page

147.

   Don't know the definition of a word? Open up

your dictionary.

   MORE INFORMATION solves the problem.

   So what do smart guys do when it comes to

overcoming a problem with women?

   They want MORE INFORMATION.

   They think the answer lies in learning just ONE

MORE TECHNIQUE... or one more magic concept.

   Well what if there were a situation in life

where the "get more information" strategy actually

made things WORSE?

   How would you even know that it was making

things worse?

   Now, I don't want to suggest that learning more

about how to be successful with women is a bad

thing. It's not.

   But if you have a problem that is EMOTIONAL or

PHYSICAL in nature, then reading five million

theories on it probably isn't going to help you

very much.

   You need to get out in the real world and try

some stuff!

   You need to look at the REAL problem... the

ROOT of the problem.

   When it comes to women and dating, there's a

very good chance that you have MORE than enough

"information".

   Smart guys often use "more information" to

distract them from TAKING ACTION.

   I've heard this referred to as "Creative

Avoidance".

   Nod silently if you've ever figured out a

creative way to avoid facing something in your

life.

   Good, thank you.

REASON #6: THEY FOCUS ON LOGIC INSTEAD OF EMOTION.

   NEWS JUST IN: Women don't feel ATTRACTION for

men who make them THINK.

   Women feel ATTRACTION for men who make them

FEEL.

   So what do most smart guys do when they first

meet a woman?

   EXACTLY!

   They get into a LOGICAL CONVERSATION.

   I'm shaking my head right now...

   Smart men try to engage women in LOGICAL

conversations and interactions because that's

where THEY feel comfortable... not knowing that

they're SHOOTING THEMSELVES IN THE FOOT by doing

it!

   Get this: A monkey sitting at a typewriter will

type the collected works of Shakespeare before you

will make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you by

engaging her in logical conversation.

   When you start a logical conversation with a

woman you've just met, you are basically taking

out a NEON SIGN that says, "I don't get it when it

comes to women" and putting it on your head.

   Typical "logical" conversations include talking

about work, family, school, and jobs... discussing

politics, religion, weather... and anything that

has to do with math, science, or INTELLIGENCE.

   On the other hand, if you start talking to a

woman and you say, "OK, so tell me something...

Why is it that all women say that they want sweet,

nice guys... but they all date sexy, selfish, bad

boys?" (and then make fun of any answer she gives)

Now you're having an EMOTIONAL conversation.

   If you don't know what I'm talking about, keep

reading. You need more help than I thought.

 REASON #7: THEY'RE NOT USED TO THE CHALLENGE OF

THE MOMENT

   Smart people usually have time to THINK about

things.

   If you're taking a test, you can sit there and

work out the answers.

   If you have a math problem, you can work on it

until you've figured it out.

   If you're trying to fix something, you can keep

working on it until it's fixed.

   Smart guys are used to being able to take at

least a LITTLE bit of time to prepare and show off

their "good sides" in most situations.

   Not so with women...

   If you don't know what to do at every step

along the way, you'll be shut down very quickly.

   Women have an AMAZING "He doesn't get it" radar

system.

   Women have all kinds of subtle and ingenious

tests that they throw at men to separate the "get

its" from the "don't get its".

   And if you don't get it, then you're going to

fail one of these tests VERY quickly.

   But the worst part is that you won't ever KNOW

that you were being tested... OR that you failed.

   Smart guys aren't used to dealing with complex

EMOTIONAL and COMMUNICATION challenges in the

moment... and especially the "women and dating"

kind.

   One of they keys to becoming more successful

with women and dating is learning to handle all of

the tests that women throw at you effortlessly.

   But before you can learn how to deal with the

tests, you must first learn how to communicate on

an emotional level, how to demonstrate that you

have fundamental social skills, and how to keep

your cool in the moment.

REASON #8: THEY THINK THAT DOING "NICE" THINGS IS

THE "SMART WAY"

   OK, let me ask you a trick question:

   If I told you that you were going to have a

date with the supermodel of your choice, which of

the following would you choose as a "smart" way of

preparing:

1) Find out what her favorite type of flowers are,

and show up with a dozen of them so she would be

"wowed".

2) Learn about her favorite travel destination so

you could discuss it with her.

3) Find out what her favorite type of food is so

you could take her to dinner... and she could see

that you cared enough to choose something that she

enjoyed.

   OK, time's up. Which did you choose?

   Now, I already mentioned that this was a TRICK

question.

   The answer is NONE OF THE ABOVE.

   But WHY?

   These three options all seemed logical, right?

   I mean, why WOULDN'T you want to show up with

her favorite flowers?

   Why WOULDN'T you want to talk about to her

about her favorite places to travel?

   Why WOULDN'T you want to take her to eat her

favorite foods so she enjoyed herself?

   Go with me here...

   Smart guys think that they're being CLEVER when

they do things like buying a woman her favorite

flowers... and bringing them to the FIRST DATE.

   Right?

   In their minds they're thinking, "I'm going to

be the guy who is thinking ahead... and I'm going

to show up with the flowers that I KNOW she

loves... and she's going to see them and like me

more because of it".

   Makes sense... good math, right?

   Well the one teensy-weensy mistake that these

"smart" guys make is not realizing that it doesn't

actually take a smart person to think like this!

   In fact, ANY jackass can figure out how to kiss

a woman's ass.

   And guess what?

   WOMEN KNOW THIS!

   And guess what else?

   EVERY WUSSBAG DOES THIS STUFF.

   An intelligent guy, in his proud arrogance,

will think he's being such the charmer by using

this "thoughtful" approach...

   ...and the woman he is chasing will interpret

it as just another Wussy who's trying to

MANIPULATE her.

   Ouch. Another blow to intelligence.

MISTAKE #9: THEY ALWAYS NEED TO BE THE EXPERT

   Have you ever met a smart guy who always needed

to be "right"?

   Have you ever met someone who would actually

argue with you about something they knew nothing

about... and make a fool of themselves because

they just couldn't shut their "smart mouths"?

   Over the last few years helping guys improve

their success with women, I see this one pattern

over and over again...

   Smart guys don't like to be "beginners" at

ANYTHING.

   They don't like the idea of screwing up...

especially if others are watching.

   They want to maintain this "smart guy" image of

themselves... so they try to always be "The

Expert" at whatever they do.

   Instead of saying, "Hey, you know what? I'm a

beginner at this... how do I do it? What should I

do first? What next?"... and instead of being

totally OK with screwing up, making mistakes, and

making a fool of themselves in front of others in

order to LEARN...

   ...they won't risk embarrassment, failure, or

others thinking that they're beginners... so they

wind up ultimately FAILING.

   MORE NEWS JUST IN: It's OK to be a beginner.

MISTAKE #10: THEY CAN'T DEAL WITH FEAR AND OTHER

EMOTIONS

   A smart guy's STRENGTH is his MIND.

   His WEAKNESS is often his EMOTIONS.

   Smart guys are often IMMOBILIZED by FEAR.

   Totally stopped.

   FROZEN.

   And since many smart guys aren't comfortable

dealing with things they're not good at, they just

repress or RUN away from fear.

   Many men would rather DIE in lonely isolation

than admit that they don't know how to deal with

their emotions... or, GOD FORBID, ask for help!

   Hey, I went for YEARS like this.

   I know what it's like.

   But the reality is that any guy can learn to

handle and even MASTER his emotions (even fear)...

if he just takes the time and effort to learn HOW

to do it.

   If this is you, then do yourself a big favor...

take the time. Take the effort.

   Don't worry about what anyone else thinks of

you... it doesn't matter.

   What matters is you doing the things that YOU

need to do FOR YOU.

   ...I think the reason why I'm so fascinated

with "The Genius Failure Paradox" is because I

have had to struggle with all of these issues for

a lot of years of my life.

   Now, I'm not saying that I'm the smartest guy

on the planet...

   But, I don't think mamma raised no fool.

   And it always bothered the hell out of me that

even though I was so good at figuring things out,

I couldn't figure WOMEN out.

   Something tells me that you know what I'm

talking about.

   Well, after beating my head against the wall

for a few years... trying all kinds of crazy

"logical" stuff... I finally got the "bright" idea

to start studying guys who were "naturally" good

with women.

   Of course, I found out that you could be both

NOT SMART and VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN at the

same time.

   I also learned that you can be SMART and VERY

SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN too.

   By carefully studying what the "naturals" did

with women... and learning how they "thought"

about the topic, I began to realize that success

with women wasn't entirely LOGICAL.

   Much of what I learned was very tough for me to

accept... because my logical brain just didn't

want to buy into it.

   One thing I saw was guys pushing women away

from them... and having the women then chase them

in response.

   Made no sense at all.

   I saw guys tease beautiful women and make jokes

About them to their faces... and then watched

Those women become "little girls" in response...

Unable to maintain their composure and therefore

Unable to maintain their manipulative power...

   It took me quite a long time, but I continued

to learn, test, and refine what I was learning

until I personally figured out how to approach

women in any situation... get any woman's number I

wanted anytime I wanted... date any type of woman

I wanted...

   ...and most importantly, GET RID of that

"empty" feeling that I carried around my whole

life because I didn't know how to attract women.

   And once I got this area of my own life

together, I decided to help other guys get this

area of THEIR lives together.